For today’s blog post, we’re swiping right and tackling one of those age-old questions: “How do I get more matches on Tinder?” Happily, I can tell you that you’ve come to the right place. Online dating can sometimes feel like a second job, and with all that constant swiping and hoping and fantasizing about the ideal relationship materializing from an app into a story of “happily ever ever”…. let’s all recognize that online dating burnout is real. And that’s ok.
But still, we swipe away, hoping we’ll eventually land on The One. So you swipe and swipe, but then it happens: your match list is empty. Crickets. Nothing doing. Why is this? Where are all the people you’re supposed to go on fun dates with? Well, let’s take it back to basics.
Your profile.
Awhile back, I put together some tips and tricks designed to make your online dating profile stand out, with such helpful tips on how many photos to post, what you should say and what to leave out of your profile, and how to attract quality matches. Both posts are great reads if you’re a newbie to online dating or if you feel like you just need a little extra advice. Making sure your profile truly highlights the *real you* will get you places. Oh, and just in case it needs to be said: NO LYING ON YOUR PROFILES (really, don’t do it – my team of sleuths and I will uncover your lies in 72 hours, tops!)
Your swipes.
Are you swiping on everyone? Only swiping on what you consider to be 10’s? Not even paying attention to who you’re swiping? Sigh. Mindless swiping, swiping without purpose, or swiping by judging a book by its cover are all terrible ways to try to make matches and connect with someone. Being present and swiping on people with full profiles and plenty of photos is going to help you attract like-minded people. The people that will then swipe right on you will see that your profile is full like theirs, your interests are similar, and you took the time to actually show you cared about who you’re looking to meet. If you don’t include any information on your profile? People might assume you’re a “bot” and skip you. Don’t be afraid to show that you’re a real, live human who’s looking for a real connection, because the payoff may just be worth it!
Your conversations.
Please don’t tell me that you’re doing a “Hey – how’s your day?” message. If you’ve followed the above advice, you have things you can talk about that are related to what is in your profile, and hopefully you swiped on someone that also has something to talk about in theirs. If they profess their love of tacos, a message like “Have you tried the new taco joint, Nacho Taco? Their chorizo tacos are definitely something to taco bout!” It may be a little cheesy (and what good taco skimps on the cheese?), but think about how different of a message it is, and how you’ll stick out by showing a little care, effort, and humor. And if he/she isn’t into your message? Then you’ll know that person doesn’t like cheesy jokes, doesn’t like tacos, and isn’t going to be the one for you.
Your overall vibe.
Just as important as posting information in your profile is what kind of information you post. If your profile is some cute pictures alongside a list of all the things you’re turned off by, guess what? You’ll come off as a negative person and many people will probably steer clear of you. It’s fine to maybe include one or two deal-breakers (i.e., “I am very much not a mountain climber so if that’s your passion, we might not have much in common” or “I’m 6 feet tall and REALLY like to look up at my guy, so I’m just putting that out there”), but it’s best to use friendly, non-judgmental language AND also list the things that make you a catch, and the qualities you’re looking for in someone else. Be friendly and approachable, as opposed to guarded and closed off, and it can work wonders.
To sum it up….
Ultimately, the business of Tinder swiping is all about putting the best, most positive version of yourself out there, while also looking for profiles of others that do the same. Yes, it can be a lot of work, but the best things in life rarely fall right into our laps. We have to work, put in a little elbow grease, and be willing to make the effort. And part of putting in that effort means protecting ourselves from those who might take advantage of us while we put ourselves out there, seeking love and connectivity. Thankfully, you’ve got some BFFs here at Aste. You do the swiping, and then leave the background checks to us!
Friends, remember that you NEED to do your due diligence on the people you meet on Tinder (or any other dating website) – and even then, it’s still smart to have us lend you a hand for extra piece of mind! Unfortunately, we have many, many examples that have shown us that people lie all the time on their dating profiles. Sometimes it’s about something relatively minor, like, say, how tall they are. Sometimes it’s more about hiding some massive red flags that you’d want to know about before you’re in too deep. You want to find love, but you want to be safe and not opening yourself up to scammers in the process – and that’s why you want to be smart and use some of the tools we discussed in this post. Even better, it’s smart to have the Aste team working hard to help you steer clear of those scammers and all those red flags! For the price of the first round of drinks? Yeah, I’d say it’s worth it.
Love and light,
