We all meet people online. Match.com, Angie’s List, Care.com, Airbnb, etc.
I met a guy on OkCupid who was out on bail awaiting trial for robbing a bank (refer to picture above). I had a maid off Angie’s List rob me of $300. My friend hired a babysitter off of Care.com and later found the babysitters twitter account of racial slurs and stories of blacking out drunk. I had an Airbnb guest ask me why I felt okay that he could murder me in my sleep.
Unfortunately, we’re living in a world where bad people have unlimited mediums to to reach even more people to screw over and it’s a runaway train of news stories.
Just a few Online Dating stories in the past week shared on Twitter:
“Tinder & Grindr linked to more than 500 crimes”
“Florida restaurant offers a way out of bad dates”
“Online daters warned after man arrested on suspicion of rape”
“Woman scammed out of $270,000 through Online Dating”
“According to MSNBC, research shows that 11% of people using online dating services are married”
“Man Allegedly Murdered Tinder Match Then Dissolved Her Body in Acid”
So what am I squawking about? Every single one of these articles ends with “Know who you’re meeting. Use the internet(s). Skype people before you meet them. Meet in a public place.”
I agree with the fact to know who you’re meeting, but I disagree with the fact that they fail to mention that some people know how to find more information on people and some people don’t know how to find more information on people. You have to be lucky enough to know a friend who can do some research for you as a personal favor.
^^^ That’s me.
Anyway, when I asked the Bank Robber why he didn’t think it was necessary to disclose the bank robber-ing, he said he was just trying to “YOLO” before trial. The maid denied stealing. The nanny got fired. I left the condo for the rest of the week after the Airbnb talked about the word “murder.”
But some of this stuff is going to come out, no? I mean I ran a background check on the Bank Robber and the robbery didn’t show up. Background checks aren’t the full picture and it’s one of the most looked down upon algorithms. With Aste, you hire professionals that can get info on someone even without a last name.
So as a liar, you’ll be uncovered and you’ll also have wasted someones time, jaded them a little bit more, and added to the world of bad apples.
Let’s stop that.
Be real, tell me you robbed a bank, tell me you’re 10 years older than your profile age, tell me you have 4 children, tell me who you actually are. Because, well, now… you’ll be found out soon enough.
Here’s to the new way of dating… the safe way.
Love and light,