Last year while I was online dating and not having a damn minute to do some due diligence on my online dates, there was this weird trend going around. I would meet a guy that said he was 42 on his dating profile go on a date with a 42 year old man and when I showed up, I’d notice that they were in their 50s. And that would’ve been totally cool, well, I mean if I knew that ahead of time. Because if I show up on the pretense that my date is 42 years old, I’d tend to think, “Excited to meet my date tonight – glad he’s in is early 40s.” Because why wouldn’t I? #Facts #NopeJustLies
So like most of us out there, I’d see the a big difference between his online pics and his real life person and then be polite and wait for them to *drop the bombshell*. (gasp – you’re not 42????) I would then ask why they lied and every single one of them had the exact same excuse. “If I had put down my actual age, we wouldn’t be here right now.”
Maybe that’s true. I mean, I’ve met men IRL that were out of the age range I might have put on Bumble and I didn’t think twice about an age range because I met them and decided I liked them enough to see them again. But they also didn’t stand in front of me at a salad line, tell me they were 10 years younger, and then ask me out under false pretenses.
But also maybe in an alternate universe we’re eating some tapas and I’m cool with you lying because I love when my date lies to me before our first date. I forgive quickly and my standards aren’t very high. Ah, your perfect scenario.
But come on, aren’t we all in agreement that it’s time to stop lying? Ever since the early 90s, MTVs The Real World has been telling us to stop being polite and start getting real. We’re in 2017 and you can’t flip through facebook, instagram, or twitter without your feed screaming of living your best authentic life. Which ultimately means to be true to who you are. SO EMBRACE YOUR SITUATION.
What this comes down to, is that when you show up on a date with a lie in your back pocket, you’re effectively wasting your time, your dates time, and the damn waiters time. You can’t build any sort of relationship based on an initial lie of something so concrete as your age because hell… that’s one thing you literally can’t change.
To wrap this up succinctly: #DontBeADouche #KnowBeforeYouGo
We’ll give you a full report on your new date within the next 24 hours:
Love and light,