A breakup isn’t a failure. In fact, it’s far from it. When we get out of the wrong relationship, we are ultimately one step closer to the right one!
First Things First
Distraction, distraction, distraction. Remember those things you used to do before you were in this relationship? You use to dance or knit or yoga or brunch or draw or read or see your friends more. Those things tend to go by the wayside when you’re fresh into a new relationship.
Now’s the time to get back to what you love to do! And the best part is that it’ll be a wonderful cause of distraction from the recent breakup. Because if you’re doing something that *you* love – you’ll pull focus from whatever the hell just happened. When you repeatedly go back to this thing again and again, a) you’ll get better at it and b) time has no choice other than to move forward.
I know you want to stay in bed. Do so for as long as you absolutely have to, and then get the hell up. The world will be exactly where you left it.
Stack up your Instagram with account of positive affirmations, motivational posts, and funny memes. Make your Pinterest a place to come back to with “to do”, “to cook”, “to see”, “to create” and some good ole dating memes to get that sense of humor jumpstarted.
Do not, under any circumstances, jump on a dating website. It may feel like you want to test to the waters, but I can assure you that you’re not ready and won’t be until you get some time alone under your belt. I went on too many first dates where the man talked about his ex and when I finally asked “How long have you two been broken up?“, the answer was a version of “She moved out last week.” That’s wasting someone else’s time and that’s not cool.
Friends. Connection. Call and text your friends and tell them you need a little TLC. But please be mindful that they are giving you their love, and this isn’t your invitation to spend the entire hang out session using your friends as therapy. They have lives, difficulties, and things they want to talk about to. If you do that, you might not be able to call that friend again any time soon.
Breakups are hard, I know. I remember falling to my knees in tears the moment I realized it was over with my first great love. I remember staying in bed for days after someone I thought I had a future with showed me his true colors far too soon. I remember not being able to let go of another ex after many, many times of trying only to finally have to rip the bandaid. These moments are etched in my brain – as I’m sure your experiences and heartaches are etched in yours.
However, I’m still here, and I’ve made it this far by having amazing friends, doing things I love, and learning who *I* am before trying to learn who someone else is first.
When it is time to learn who that someone else actually is… I started this company of online investigators – aka The Dating Detectives – so we can give you the jump on what a person may be hiding from their online dating profile.
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Light and love always,